Project Sibling

M. and I have always planned to have two children. I grew up with a sibling and M. was basically an only child growing up. She feels strongly that she doesn't want Finn to be an only child like her.

The biggest unknown for Project Sibling has been DtD. Would he agree to go through another round of TTC? It could be another harrowing eight tries. It could be more. M. and I both think that concieving Finn was probably harder on DtD than he expected. We both feel like we have so much riding on him agreeing to number two. We don't want to move to an anonymous donor. We aren't sure if we could afford that. Project Sibling cast a bit of a shadow over us as we moved into our new parenthood.

Then DtD decided to leave the country. This made it important to discuss getting M. pregnant a lot sooner than we had expected.

He said "yes". We'll start in a year when he gets back. It's six months later than we'd planned, but that's the way things work when you have a third party involved...sometimes you have to be a bit more flexible. He's such a great known donor that it makes it worth it.

It feels good to have a plan to start our TTC adventure all over again. It will give us next summer with Finn when he's a little older and can do things like camp and swim. It will give me more time to save leave up since I plan to take another four months off. It will give M. more time to get her body ready to have a child. It also feels like enough time to be emotionally ready to step back into the roller coaster torture experience that TTC can be.