We have an Adoption Date
M. will become Finn's legal mama on July 31st. Yay!
The adoption is bitter-sweet. On one hand, it's wrong that M. should have to adopt her own son. We should have our marriage recognized by our government. Our son should start his life with both of us on his birth certificate. The state shouldn't benefit off discriminiation.
The sweet part is that M. will be Finn's legal mama and it's awesome. We're lucky to have the option of a second parent adoption.
I'm more and more excited as the date approaches. M.'s brother will be coming up from California and both sets of grandparents will attend. The judge we scheduled with is the one who makes you cry. M. designed the above invitation and we're going to make it a party. After all, it's a wonderful thing for Finn to be able to have two legal mamas.
posted by Sacha @ 7:58 AM
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14 Comments:
i love the invitation! so sweet! i wish i could come to your party!
That's great news, although I agree it's too bad you have to go through an adoption at all. (I live in Ontario and didn't have to adopt my son. We just put both our names on the statement of live birth and signed it, same as any other married couple.)
I love the invitation. It's beautiful. Can't wait to hear all about the big event!
Congratulations!
beautiful invite!
congrats on having a date.
xo
That's fantastic news.
You are very lucky. In England my partner cannot adopt our daughter yet. (unless i give up parental rights which kind of defeats the object!). She can apply for parental responsibility through the courts but she can't be a legal parent. It sucks but the law is hopefully going to change soon.
Enjoy planning your party - the invitation is gorgeous!
yay! congrats! love the invitation and can't wait to celebrate with you when the adoption takes place!!!
i agree, you should both be his parents automatically. we thankfully didn't have to do an adoption as the laws changed here in ontario just in time, as shannon stated. i was really ticked about having to pay money and go through an adoption when we were both the parents from the start. i hope the changes that have taken place here spread to all of north america.
YAHOO!!!!
To Finn you are both his mom's regardless of a piece of paper or as I call it piece of mind.
I'm so happy that you guys are happy. You deserve all of it.
Great news! And what a nice invitation. :-)
Congratulations on the upcoming adoption! I am happy for you guys!
Just a side note, we /are/ technically legally married here in MA, and I /can/ put Jen's name on a birth certificate... but it's not valid. They cross out the word "Father" and write in "Second parent" or something like that (if it gets approved by a judge), and as you may or may not know, an "amended" or "changed" birth certificate is not valid in the eyes of the law.
So we need to do second parent adoption, too. So infuriating!!
What Jude said...
except Hannah's birth certificate DOES say co-parent for each one of us. Our lawyer says to still do the second parent adoption for federal recognition - but Hannah's certified copy doesn't show father crossed out at all. I showed it to a few people and they all agree it looks like I printed it off my own computer though... ::sigh::
Congratulations. Have a wonderful day.
I'm jealous! The best we can get here is a parenting order from the family court and that doesn't even give LM full parenting rights. She couldn't even adopt Seth if I died because of the ban on gay adoption in our state. Our laws suck dogs balls :-( I'm glad for you guys that you can have the peace of mind of the adoption. Have a wonderful day!!!
congratulations!!!
That is wonderful!!! Our adoption was finalized this week, and it's an amazing feeling. Congrats, family!
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