Stress on all Sides
We're not that far into the TTC process but we're all starting to show the stress.
I'm feeling like I've given up on my body. In my better moments I can understand that there's not anything significantly wrong and this pregnancy thing takes time, and we're still well within normal range for getting pregnant. In my worst moments I feel like my body has betrayed me.
M. is busy trouble shooting, trying to tweak the process to eliminate all reasons within our control why this isn't working.
posted by Sacha @ 7:20 PM
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8 Comments:
Sorry to hear all this is getting you down. I think there's not a lot to do with DTD's boyfriend. And I doubt very much it will collapse your agreement. He just needs to work through it, probably.
Today one of my coworkers said she saw me with my sister at Granville Island. Not sure which of you is my sister, but apparently we look a lot alike. Hee hee...
As someone who lost our one KD opportunity over a spouse..... I HEAR YOU. and I think feeding people is a good call. Well fed people tend to be happier...can't argue with that. And, you know, chocolate is a drug. :-) (By the way, I agree with Anne that it won't collapse your agreement; I was annoyed that a spouse *did* collapse our agreement, but that was at a much earlier stage, i.e., exactly nowhere).
The "what ifs" in life are plenty. With Dtd so invested in this, I'm sure they'll find ways to work through that issue. Baking for them is something proactive you can do, and I agree that it's a good idea.
I hope Bambi sticks and you don't have to worry about ((HUGS)) On a side note, I was looking at girl names last night and Bambi is Italian in origin and means "child". How fitting!
Hmmm. Feeding people is good strategy. But also suggesting that perhaps DtD let BF in on things. Maybe he is already, but I do know that when a man has a partner help him produce his sample the sperm count is higher...
I can understand why he is frustrated, TTC is so consuming of all involved. And I can understand why you're frustrated with the fact that BF is frustrated. What is sad is that just because DtD can't come whenever and whereever while you are inseminating, doesn't mean that they can't be sexual that week or that BF has to feel deprived. If that's his only problem and main frustration then hopefully he'll clue into that and things can ease up.
Till then, cook and bake away, my dear, pull him close and put him in a food coma so he can't even THINK of anything as energetic as sex!
I would freak out if I were you too, but I think it might just be normal for him to feel inconvenienced... especially if it is taking longer than he expected. Probably more important than the sex, DtD's phyche is probably full right now worrying about his sperm and feeling concerned for you. I bet he is not there for BF like he used to be. Maybe they need to make sure they are going on dates and connecting.
Or maybe I am such a GIRL and really they just need more sex!
How would it be if you fed them and brought it up at dinner so BF could maybe openly share his frustrations (cause its not like you don't all feel grumpy about it at times).
hi.. i have read a lot that it's not good to abstain from sex (i mean on the man front!) it wont improve quality/ quanitiy...
i would say it would be better as its not so um .."old" ..
i guess there is a lot of though on this but i wouldn't let it break down you agreement he sounds liek the perfect guy... maybe let him off for a month and see... !
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We too have been told that abstaining is not necessary (something our donor was worried about too!)
Trista's suggestion might help ease the pressure )so to speak!!). Our donor's partner definitely wants to be involved in the collection - one couple helping out another.
That said, food always works wonders for me!!
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