We have a Good Boy

Yay for our boy!*

We just spent a couple days with him and I'm struck again by how great he is. Although Taking Some Time to get Pregnant has been stressful, in many ways it's also been good. It's given all of us time to get closer and become better friends. If I'd gotten pregnant right away I think things would have been very different. There would have been more distance. Time is melting away a lot of that distance.

M. and I were talking this morning about how much we like our boy, and how much he seems to like us. I told her, "Well, we're family." and she said that she doesn't how to define this new family we're becoming. We can all understand sister, brother, mother, aunt, grandmother, cousin. What do you do with your donor, especially when we've asked him (and he's agreed) to remain involved in our child's life. And he's becoming a huge part of your own life as well. What kind of family is that?

That's what makes this so hard sometimes. We don't have any way to know how to make this work. We have to create our boundaries and definitions as we go along. It's hard when you have so much at stake to learn to trust someone outside of your primary relationship.

So we slog on. We're on day 9 of the TWW, and although we are feeling hopeful, it's the kind of hope that is tinged with reality. We're most likely not pregnant, but maybe...just maybe.... Having such a great donor makes the whole Taking Some Time to get Pregnant just a little bit better.

*M. has informed me that when we have a baby I can no longer call DtD 'the boy'.