TTC #2
Well...
We are having to think about #2 already. Turns out DtD is going to be leaving the country in October. This prompted us having to have the conversation about using him for Finn's little sister or brother WAY earlier than we had expected.
The good news...
I didn't have to have multiple long discussions about nothing, including dry wall, in order to make the request. Yay me!
and...
He said he has no problem helping us with #2.
The bad news...
Well, he's going overseas. For at least six months. Maybe eighteen months.
He won't commit until he talks to BF. Perfectly okay but a little nervewracking since BF is the most distanced from our little family.
Options...
Start TTC #2 NOW since we have a couple months. At home insems. M.'s cycle is looking pretty good and she's ovulating.
Do a freeze test and start looking into the cost of storing.
Fly DtD home every five weeks.
Wait six to eighteen months from now to start TTC #2.
Okay, time for Finn to go to bed. We'll think about this tomorrow.
posted by Sacha @ 8:14 PM
12 comments
12 Comments:
OMG - that is so soon to have number 2! Are you guys ready for that? If you are I'm truly impressed, because I need at least 18 months before I think about conceiving again. Phew!
I honestly don't know if we're ready. It will be M. this time, which makes it feel a little more possible...we'll see. This is a hard one.
I have to say I never thought I'd feel this way but those 6 vials of our donor's sperm make me feel so much more comfortable about the possibility of #2. We can do it when we are ready and not worry so much about The Sperminator and his crazy life. I highly recommend storing some. I think we paid $250 per donation + $600 for his STI testing (he has no insurance) + $30 a month for storage, just so you have an idea. Our RE waived the semen analyses since we knew his swimmers had done the job before. His two donations made 8 samples suitable for IUI or IVF.
Oh wow!!! I am usually just a lurker... but just wanted to say good luck with your decision!
our daughter is 20 months old now and our 'plan' was to start the process for #2. we are enjoying her so much and enjoying still having some semblance of a life that we are now considering waiting another several months to start for #2. i would consider waiting the 18 months, i'm not sure if we would have chosen that when our daughter was finn's age though.
good luck with whatever you decide...
Eeeek! This is big. The same thing happened to us with a KD who was moving home (overseas) for good. We wanted to use him for both of us, in the case that T had gotten pregnant using his sperm. Alas, that never happened, but we were faced with the same kind of decisions about storage, etc.
i don't know you guys at all, so i can't really give you advice, but i will say that it does seem soon to be having #2...
Have you considered any of the fresh-shipping companies? i don't know if they work for overseas transport, but it's worth looking in to!
Wow, that is a huge decision to have to make. And so many options to consider. Good luck!
I'm not sure that it's too soon. The baby would be born a year after Finn, at least. And since it would be M. carrying the baby, your body still would have the chance to continue to recover after Finn's birth. (wish I had that option with my husband!)
I'm sorry you're having your hand forced in this, but it is pretty exciting - what a wild thing to wrap your head around so soon!
Personally, I think it's a fabulous idea - ready or not. I grew up with siblings close to my age, and I can't imagine life any differently. Also, my children are pretty close in age and honestly, it was nice to have more than one child. When my son came along, my daughter had a new companion, someone to help keep her occupied. I actually think it made my job as a parent easier.
It has it's draw-backs, of course. Two children in diapers at the same time is quite an undertaking! But I wouldn't change it for the world...
Anyway, that's my two cents!
Love,
Traci
OMG! I am just so excited for Megs--because I know how it feels to wait in the wings. But I don't know how any of the other stuff y'all are wrastlin' with feels: timing ttc #2, known donor stuff. So I just wanted to send love to you both as you begin the womb-switch process. We're in it and it's big!
I say GO FOR IT! Well, if you are emotionally and physically ready for it, of course. ;) Our little guy is just 8 months old (tomorrow!) and we're going to try for #2 now. I'm 37 and don't want to wait and I think it'll be great for our two kids to be close in age. There were 6 years between me and my brother and even though we even work together at the moment, we're still not all that close.
And, hey, the selfish part of me would love to read about #2 on your blog as I'm going through it myself. Good luck with your decision!
Please, I'm Catholic---definitely not too soon. ;) I'd be jumping at the chance. Good luck!
Post a Comment
<< Home